Crises of family relationships
When a couple lives together (it doesn’t matter whether they are officially married or not yet), various frictions inevitably arise. And not only of everyday life, but also moral and physical. It is more accurate to call them relationship crises.
1. Lapping stage. When people just start living with each other, communication happens all the time, willy-nilly. If previously it was possible to postpone a date if you were in a bad mood or feeling unwell, now this is no longer possible. Also, partners get to know each other from completely different aspects in everyday life. This may be, for example, due to differences in parental upbringing and family structure, or due to differences in culture. The best way to avoid conflicts in this case is for each partner to discuss in advance their vision of living together, be it the right to personal space or cooking. Perhaps everyone will have to make compromises and give up some of their habits. This task is not as simple as it seems at first glance. Sometimes it takes about a year of living together to get used to each other.
2. Stage of difference of interests. As mentioned earlier, each individual from the couple was brought up in his own traditions and lived by his own interests. Unfortunately, it happens that interests differ too much, in which case conflicts arise. It is important, even at the initial stages of a relationship, to try to find common ground, common hobbies, which can later develop into family traditions. This could be anything – from a shared passion for reconstructions and military themes to paragliding. Or something more relaxed, for example, training in the gym. In this case, there will always be something to share and talk about during long evenings.
3. So-calledmidlife crisis. Society believes that men are more susceptible to this, but this is not entirely true. It’s just that the female part of the population, as a rule, is busy with everyday issues, children, and she simply has no time to think about the essence of existence. As a rule, this stage occurs at the age of about 40-45 years, when the understanding comes that life is moving on, has almost passed, and there is still so much unknown. As they say, “have time to jump into the last carriage of the departing train.” The current family situation is not necessarily to blame here; everything can be quite happy. And partners can be gentle and attentive to each other, and take care of themselves. There is no need to blame anyone. The psychophysiological characteristics of men explain such actions. Work, hobbies, and life in general change dramatically. It is possible to help a man survive this period without loss. You need to strive to understand a man, periodically go to see a family psychologist, and be spiritually close to a man.
Starting to live together is not difficult. The main difficulty is to maintain the same high quality level of relationships over many years.
