How does a man feel when he falls in love?
If a young lady becomes overly interested in a friend, she loses the opportunity to soberly evaluate his behavior towards herself.
An idea is always spinning in the girl’s head: does this person like her? The desire to take a positive answer to this question is often so strong that girls in love inadvertently begin to juggle the facts, invent some details and invent motives for their friend’s behavior. Any of his actions, any look is assessed from the standpoint of emotions. Did the young man give his hand as he exited the tram? That means he’s not indifferent. Does he look at the lady for a long time? Definitely in love. Did you invite us to have lunch together or pay for coffee? Obviously trying to get to know each other better!
But in reality, everything is possible otherwise. The man offered his hand, due to the fact that he was well brought up, looked at the girl for a long time because, and invited her to dinner out of boredom. If the young lady had breathed evenly in his direction, she would, by and large, not have attached any importance to it. But since through the prism of emotions such actions are perceived differently! A woman thinks that symbols of attention are being intensively shown to her, more and more convincing herself that she is loved. She spends a lot of effort, time and energy on arranging sometimes completely unpromising relationships. And to dreams, which can be deserted. So what’s the result? And in the end, disappointment, tears, suffering of unrequited love, loss of self-esteem. But the blow could have been softened if the poor thing knew what the fact that a man fell in love means.
No matter what they say in that place about the cynicism of the stronger sex, about the fact that peasants, they say, only needpleasure, this is not true. Domestic expensive gentlemen are capable of falling in love seriously. It’s just that they usually calculate the appearance and, especially, the manifestation of emotions as weakness and hide behind the image of a seeker for a bed girlfriend. Or an unapproachable idol.
How does a man’s love begin? First, from many ladies, one is reflexively selected. The young man’s gaze clings to her, it’s as if something explodes in his head, and an increased amount of testosterone is released into the blood. In just a split second, a young man manages to imagine himself with this woman in a restaurant, on a walk in the park, in bed, and also in the registry office. Someone goes further and imagines unspecialized children and a joyful old age together with a girl. But at the same time, a man may not consciously plan to marry the person he likes. His psyche is easily structured in such a way that it instantly scans all possible options for the development of a relationship with the one he thinks is more attractive than the other.
Once the lady is chosen, she automatically becomes the center of interest of her own potential admirer. No, he does not yet feel any special tenderness towards the object of increased attention, nor a desire to protect, help and care. The guy’s thoughts are still mostly occupied with pressing matters. But the process of falling in love has already begun. It is impossible to stop him. At first it is not very noticeable. Already hooked by the hooligan Venus, the young man behaves almost the same as before. He devotes a lot of time to work, hobbies, and friends. And after that…
After this, suddenly many of the actions of my purposeful, collected, important and not at all lyrical friends begin to resemble the behavior of a naughty child. He can forget about an important matter, talk joyful nonsense during a work conversation, be rude to management, show up at his own office dressed as a biker, and, by and large, sometimes pull such tricks that you are easily amazed. For example, today a reserved intellectual suddenly tries to fight with someone or goes for a swim in a fountain. And the boorish type, who doesn’t let anyone down, jumps into an elegant suit, hangs a tie around his neck and begins to read poetry.
In a word, if a man has already seriously fallen in love, the king in his head goes home. The mind is losing control, thoughts are wandering around, anarchy is walking in the soul. As a result, the most responsible thing for a person who is stunned by the influx of emotions is the desire to see the object of love as often as possible. Everything else – work, hobbies, meetings with friends – fades into the background. The main thing is to be closer to your own passion, see each other, hear her voice, inhale the smell of perfume, touch.
If a young man is in the same company with a girl he is in love with, he tries to demonstrate his best side. Moreover, the concept of this “best side” is different for everyone. Some people are sure that ladies only like money tycoons, and they puff themselves up like a turkey, emphasizing their own importance in the business world. Some people think that girls need to be won over with their wit, and make puns and all sorts of jokes inappropriately and inappropriately. Someone tries to win a girl with flattery and is showered with compliments. There are also those who demonstrate ferocity and swing their fists at any pretext in the belief that the weaker sex only adores the strong.
The behavior of a lover in love can be compared with the behavior of a peacock spreading its tail when a female appears. He tries to show off his intelligence, retrieving from the far corners of his memory aphorisms and quotes he once read, talks about his own victories and exploits, flexes his muscles, puts on airs… In a word, he tries to look like the best of the best. In general, at a time when young people are in love and strongly desire to please a girl, in most cases they choose three usual images to present themselves.
This type of guy tries to completely impress a lady with his inexhaustible wit. He tells jokes without finishing and jokes continuously. Moreover, in everyday life, this person is perhaps a joyless beech, from whom it is very difficult to squeeze out the semblance of a grin. And the role he diligently plays during courtship is not easy for him. All of his wit is based on many hours of memorizing anecdotes and jokes, which the domestic cheerful man now so cheerfully flaunts. And this can be done so easily thanks to hormones that stimulate the brain’s receptors.
- Romantic image
Oooh, this is a man with a narrow nature who can appreciate the beautiful. He admires nature, the surrounding landscape, rain, sunset… He does this as if by chance, as if for himself. In reality, such phrases are intended, of course, for the one whose heart you want to conquer. For greater results, the romantic admires some theatrical performances, paintings, sculptures, and literary works with her. In the end, it is entirely possible that he has never been to the theater under any circumstances, and has not seen good painting, and has not looked at any books, not counting technical aids and textbooks. All this is fiction, but for her, for her, her beloved! You need to do something to attract a girl.
- The image of a cynic
The cynic is cold, pragmatic and treats everything with causticity. Wash-moo. In essence, such a sneer is, to the fullest extent possible, a shy, very timid person in himself. And he put on an arrogant, cheeky look in order to interest the girl. Like, I don’t care about everything in the world and no one under any circumstances will break through this wall of indifference. This is like a challenge to a sympathetic person, who, in the understanding of the friend, is obliged to accept it.
It must be stated that among the stronger sex there are quite a lot of good psychologists who sense exactly what type of ladies they are dealing with and automatically adapt to this type. Based on this, the role played by a lover often turns out to be effective. An interested woman is already ready to be invited on a date, agrees to give her own phone number, expects him to take her to his place… And nothing happens. A man whose feelings are burning with a flashy flame does not offer to meet, does not ask questions about his phone number and does not see him off. What’s the matter?! Yes, the fact is that he is simply afraid! And he fears the more, the more important his intentions are.
It would seem, why be afraid? The lady is not a fire-breathing dragon or a tiger. There is nothing terrible about inviting her to a restaurant or club. It turns out there is. She can refuse, and this is a blow below the belt. More correctly, a blow to pride, which is one of the most painful for men. Based on this, besides being burned with love, they will rush around, doubt, suffer, before making a decisive move towards getting closer to the girl. And the stronger the love, the harder this move is.
But what then should a girl do if she is already seriously interested in such a fearful representative of the strong-sexed? Expect? What if he hesitates for years? So it’s possible and by and large you won’t have to wait for anything! This means you need to take the initiative yourself. But activity in matters of the heart is advisable only when there is confidence in a man’s love. Otherwise, you will definitely get into trouble, or you will be branded as an obsessive person who is completely devoid of emotion and self-advantage.
The cynicism, romance, and brilliance of a young man’s wit cannot be the basis for the emergence of such confidence. A person can be a cynic, cheerful or romantic by nature. How can a lady know whether this is his natural behavior or a role he is playing for her? Drawing conclusions based only on a person’s manner of behavior is, of course, prohibited. How then can you realize that the one with whom you want to be together really cares? There are a couple of indicators of a man’s falling in love.
Frankly speaking, if a young man likes a woman, at any moment one of the first ideas that appears in his head ispleasuree with her. There’s nothing wrong with that.pleasure– a method of self-affirmation of the stronger sex, which is evidence of its masculinity. Sexual instinct awakens the hunter’s instinct, and the young man begins to lure his prey into a trap, using all cheap methods for this. He can pretend to be anyone, invent a lot of tricks, spend a lot of time in the company of a girl, just to achieve his own goal. But sometimes, having taken what he wanted, he immediately loses interest in the conquered person. It turns out that the desire to own a girl cannot be evidence of falling in love with her. What then can it do?
Having fallen in love, he will definitely begin to need such contact, which is not noted when it is obviouspleasuresexual attraction. A man will look for communication with a girl, call her, send messages, hang around the entrance, be interested in her problems and talk about himself. Moreover, some will begin to sing serenades, and others will begin to express themselves in a tongue-tied and awkward manner. What can you do, we are all different. But since the degree of eloquence in this case is not at all important! The main thing is that a person craves not only the touch of bodies, but also the touch of souls. So he really is in love.
- A man willingly lets his girlfriend into his life
He shares his own problems, takes him to meetings with friends, brings him to his place, offers to go on a trip with him and without that later. In most cases, the male sex takes the constant presence of a lady in her own personal space as an attack on her own invaluable freedom. And if a man in that direction not only lets her in, but also calls her out, this is a sign of falling in love. But not when a lady is invited into the house, asked to clean up the mess, cook dinner, wash shirts, and then disappears for a couple of days. In this case, it is easy for a bachelor to be lazy or have no time to take care of everyday life himself.
