What a woman should do to be an ideal companion for a man

Before writing several articles on this topic, I didn’t think very long and accepted the only correct answer, in my opinion: not to look at what ladies think about this, as well as those who make up the countless army of copywriters for bourgeois sites.

It is much better to demonstrate to the ladies what we want from them, from a domestic, male point of view. So to inform, to turn ourselves outside.

This may seem uncouth to you, but in the article we will give a sequence of rules (in addition to clear instructions for action) that a lady must do in order to be a perfect companion for her friend.

In this note, as we have already agreed, there is no intimacy – only everyday life and women’s relationships and the psychology of men.

Shakespeare once wrote that, in addition, the strongest boat of love is mercilessly broken by the rocks of everyday life.

The experience of all of us and the older generation suggests that, unfortunately, this is the case. However, there are joyful couples in the world in which the man idolizes his chosen one. It is often difficult for you to understand why this is so, and “what did I do wrong?” In reality, there are not so many of these “wrong things” in female behavior when compared with the endless series of conventions that ladies set for their partners.

Relatively not so long ago, while browsing through my favorite pages on VKontakte, I came across this joke about women and men’s relationships:

HOW TO MAKE A MAN JOYFUL?

HOW TO MAKE A LADY JOYFUL?

It’s not that hard. You just have to be:

NOT FORGING Along with this:

• Give compliments quite often
• Love shopping
• Don’t make a fuss or look for trouble
• Don’t make her angry
• Don’t look at second girls

At the same time you NEED:

• Be attentive
• Don’t be jealous
• Get along with her family
• Finding time for her… While also giving her space, taking care of her

FINALLY, VERY IMPORTANT:

Under no circumstances. Remember dates:

Holy truth. From a domestic male point of view. So, let’s start discovering the highlights of a perfect girl.

Rule 1: DO NOT DEMAND FROM HIM THE IMPOSSIBLE, and on a daily basis.

Maybe it’s hard to understand, but at the time when a man worked hard at 2-3-…-N jobs and came to his place, he was tired. Based on this, it is completely clear that he may forget to tell a long tirade about how much he adores you, or forget to bring fresh flowers to you, or buy your favorite juice at the supermarket. Separately, all this is fully necessary, of course, but not all at once…

Take a look at the list above and think about whether it is very different from the military regulations of the Army. In the entire Charter, by the way, there are fewer points for the ordinary person.

So, sometimes we need days off from your “charter”.

Before I continue further, I can’t resist quoting you. Still, the thoughts of smart people are a strong help.

So, at the beginning of the 17th century, Rabbi Isaac Ben Elyakim from Poznan wrote “The 10 Commandments of the Perfect Wife,” which he placed in one huge book, “A Good Heart.” He wrote it for the edification of his own daughter.

These are the “10 Commandments of the Perfect Wife”:

1. Don’t wake your husband while he’s sleeping
2. Hunger breeds rage. Don’t make him wait for food
3. There is no need to justify to him that your advice is better than his. Don’t talk back to your husband
4. Don’t say anything to make him angry. Treat him like a king and he will be your slave
5. No need to hate his friends and adore his enemies
6. Be careful with his finances and do not hide your own financial affairs
7. Keep his secrets secret. If he is boastful, and this is not “take it to a non-specialized yard”
8. When your spouse is angry, be happy and be quiet
9. Pay close attention to his requests
10. Don’t expect the impossible from him

To be honest, I came across this for the first time the other day, while I was thinking about the points of this note, and I was disappointed: a lot of things have already been communicated here that I wanted to communicate. Indeed, there is something to disagree with. So we’ll duplicate it somewhere and refute it somewhere. So let’s move on.

Remember: this is HOLY! Do not, under any circumstances, ever say anything bad about HIS FRIENDS. And moreover, under no circumstances should you dare tell him: “Choose: either me or your friends.” When you say this 9 times, he will endure it. The tenth answer will be categorical: “It goes without saying, my friends.” And you will be sent to your mother, where you planned after the end of the last scandal. But in this case, on his initiative and with the finishes.

If, from your point of view, his friends are all drunkards, sheep and parasites, then this is your personal opinion, and let it remain with you. It is a priori forbidden to tell him about this.

Well, regarding enemies – here this rabbi, in my opinion, is too categorical: it is possible for every person (not counting friends) to draw adequate conclusions, and if you point out to your loved one the good traits of his hated boss or another enemy of the people, he will not mind.

The animal that he got before meeting you, by definition, cannot be ugly, stupid, “hairy, there is fur all over the room.” Don’t you dare offend his animal or speak disapprovingly of him.

Advice: if you just win his heart, then immediately make friends with his animal – the guy will be impressed. If you are not a Greenpeace member, then at least pretend that you are not indifferent to this dog, cat, iguana, and then.

His mother-in-law. Or the future mother-in-law. Or potential. Doesn’t matter. Remember: if your mother had the negligence to speak disapprovingly towards him at least once in her life, then she will be enemy No. 1 for him for eternity. Based on this, if you do not want to awaken the beast in him instead of the hamster, FORGET the words “BUT MY MOTHER REPORTED.” He’s as interested in your mom’s opinion as he is in the trouble of owl migration or the amount of drug smuggling from Brazil to Bolivia. Giving an example about the opinion of his mother-in-law will only cause, at a minimum, dissatisfaction with him. To give 5 or 6 such examples in one year of fate is to knowingly send a curse on the mother-in-law on his part.

If you figure out that your mother is right on a particular issue, then say: “You know, I THINK that…” The effect in this case will be good.

At least don’t do it in front of him.

Remember: him, while you and your mother, girlfriend and sister are discussing for half an hour on the phone your scandal yesterday or his new shirt.

Moreover, here is another terrible secret: it is better to postpone a half-hour conversation with your mother on abstract topics when he is not next to you. In the final case, perhaps to the kitchen.

Regarding “Don’t talk back to your husband,” I don’t agree with the rabbi. We, friends, are, of course, stubborn people, but we also don’t like weak-willed sheep who don’t have their own opinions. You just don’t need to function according to the principle “female logic is the negation of male logic.”

Otherwise, we also don’t like slave ladies in the style of “my beloved is right at any moment” without their own “I”. It’s like a meat dish without seasoning – it gets boring over the years. But under no circumstances do we allow a lady to be taller than ourselves in our own thoughts – it is forbidden to keep a man “on a leash.”

The same applies to HIS IDEAS. In addition, if you think that his next thought is “the absurdity of a madman,” then let him know about it gently. If you think that ALL his ideas are insanity, it is better to either break up with him or keep your opinion to yourself. Otherwise, you are guaranteed either jihad or a spouse suffering from depression.

The rabbi spoke perhaps a little too strongly about FOOD. Few hunger can be tolerated. But under no circumstances should you forbid him to have what he wants, under the pretext that “it is harmful.” And if he doesn’t like your culinary creation, then get rid of it (from the dish, I mean). Relationships and Family will be stronger.

It is true that the way to a friend’s heart is through his stomach. And don’t force him to have something that he doesn’t adore – on the 10th such case, you risk hearing a heart-rending cry a la “I WILL NOT CHOCK ON THIS Abomination!”

Women, let’s be honest – you de facto don’t have enough of them at any time. But even though you have enough, even if you don’t have enough money for a new fur coat, you don’t need to under any circumstances ever go into his wallet or give out anything in the style of “I took your card, I’ll withdraw the money myself.” Firstly, this humiliates him, and secondly, your friend will always have his own money, which you will not know about. And there is no need to try to determine them under any pretext.

Do you know why all friends strive to have their own garage, even if they don’t have a car? Due to the fact that their “norm” from you is constantly stored in that place. But God forbid you from the sin of trying to find it and – this is, by and large, mortally scary – emptying it. If a man saves money “on the sly,” then he does it for your own good, because he is saving for a new house, a car, or just for a surprise for you. Once you break the vow of non-interference, you have the opportunity to take a ticket to your own mother. With things. This is no joke.

Don’t extort him! The statements “I’ll turn around now and go to my mother,” which are made in order to argue with him and “put him on a leash,” are more than scary. No ordinary man would tolerate this more than twice – on the third you will actually go to your mother according to the One way ticket principle.

The same applies to insincere tears – an attempt to cry in order to “break through” it is very easily calculated by us.

Dear women, we are not as stupid as you think.

Unlearn the habit of invariably examining them for “What if…”.

Men are not all males, as you think or as you secretly would like. Total control provokes a man to take unauthorized actions towards you, of which you latently suspect him. If you search for your mistress in his contacts without finishing, he will eventually find her, doing it to spite you.

I’m not talking about the fact that it is strictly forbidden to control us by and large. But this rarely needs to be done. No more than once a year. I checked all the indicated points at once: phone, email, social network, calmed down and forgot for a year.

Especially with friends. Otherwise, you will immediately be made to look like a fool, and quite harshly at that.

And don’t forget: from time to time it’s better to remain silent in front of him and his friends, in case you don’t know something.

An example from fate on this topic: the three of us gathered to drink whiskey, the third brings his own new passion. Glamorous pussy in 15 minutes. She betrayed the presence to her own young man: “Besides, you can’t cut meat yourself normally, you need to be taught everything. BUT I WILL TEACH YOU EVERYTHING AND TELL YOU EVERYTHING”… They show Zhirinovsky on TV that when asked “Where did you get your Maybach,” he answered with his characteristic emotion of humor: “From Germany.” Angry at his own girl, the young man turns to her and asks tricky questions: “WHO is this Maybach, do you even know?” Kiso, without an iota of hesitation, said: “They may have worked together in Germany.” I wasn’t the only one, because of my own culture, then bit the inside of my cheek so as not to neigh like Przewalski’s horse.”

Especially trying to do this in public. You will certainly light the fuse of a powder keg with this. If there are “dog-rags” among men, the percentage of them is small.

I didn’t mean to sound cynical, dear ladies. Therefore, if I offended anyone, don’t judge me harshly. For the Lord’s sake. But the unpleasant truth is better… And by and large, Katya Ogonyok once sang about all this well in her song “Lady Success.” Find it online and listen; I won’t quote it here due to the unusual vocabulary in a couple of places. The song is joyful, but also instructive. Except for the “I’m pregnant” blackmail. Well, we’ve already talked about the blackmail.

And by and large, we, friends, are like children. For us to adore you, you must also Adore us! This rule is the most important! ??

Break stereotypes and become a truly perfect woman.

Have a nice day, dear women! Do you understand what a perfect woman looks like to a friend? She can cook pies and borscht, while simultaneously performing miracles of acrobatics in bed? Or is she simply a good listener and supportive in any situation? Or perhaps the perfect woman is someone who makes him feel like a winner? Let’s explore this question and decide if this perfect woman exists.

Of course, if we survey thousands of men, we’ll find a dozen qualities that are essential in a woman. But if you’re a reasonable person, you’ll be able to figure out for yourself what these characteristics are: intelligent, thrifty, caring,pleasurable, patient, and so on. Let’s try to move away from such clichés.The first thing you should consider is that each friend has their own ideal. For one, it’s a slender, tall blonde who wears lace lingerie and doesn’t ask unnecessary questions. For another, it’s a gentle, sweet brunette with a well-developed sense of humor. Young men use different parameters when searching for a partner. Therefore, creating a single, perfect image will never work. Domestic expectations almost never align with reality. When a young man meets a girl he considers ideal, he’ll initially admire her. But as time passes, he gets to know her better, she reveals her secrets and mysteries, and reveals her true self. More time passes, and nothing remains of the ideal.

A friend of mine found his own perfect wife. They got married and had beautiful twins. But three years later, I discovered he was having sex with another perfect girl. So, his wife stopped being the one for him.

You have the opportunity to become someone else’s ideal. It’s not really that difficult. It’s hard not to lose yourself, not to fall under someone else’s control. So what will you have left of your own when you start indulging someone else’s desires?

I offer two articles that will help you discover your true self, find your best, and develop it: “How to Become a Real Lady” and “How to Become a Secret Lady.”

Let’s try to see women through my friend’s eyes. What does he look for in a relationship? Comfort, composure, care, good

pleasure , someone you can chat with and rely on. And age doesn’t matter at all. I’ve met couples where the man is more than twenty years older than his partner, and vice versa.

In any situation, it’s crucial to be yourself. Adore yourself and accept yourself as you are. One of my clients had a complex about the size of her breasts for a long time. She thought they were too small. She debated for a long time about breast augmentation surgery and ultimately decided against it because she met a man who dispelled all her doubts and demonstrated how beautiful and desirable she was. She realized that she deserved happiness and love.pleasurable, patient, and so on. Let’s try to move away from such clichés.Who is a worthy woman? What a woman should be like.